What she said

Following on from my previous post...  I have to say.. this is worth waiting for.
So I'm copying and pasting this post from Ellie on what I look for in people, friends, lovers:

We might disagree; in fact that’s a very good thing but at the end of the day we can agree to disagree, and we can respect each other’s points of view.

You’re confident, but not arrogant.

You can win an argument with grace.

You can lose an argument with grace.

You can change your mind, and admit that you were wrong. When you are wrong, you fully admit it and take responsibility.

We might have different priorities, but if you are taking care of what’s top priority to you (and that’s not reflecting any extreme negative externalities) then we’re cool.

You’re not clingy.

You’re definitely not whiny. This is a weird one because I tend to whine, but it’s usually not sincere, just more a way to make light of a situation or hear myself talk.

You’re thoughtful and insightful. You are capable of talking about training. Or philosophy. Or politics, even if at the end of the day you do have one overriding passion.

You care about something, anything, that’s not just yourself or your physical existence or that of your family and loved ones.

You’re genuine, and honest, at least most of the time.

You’re strong and brave, and call me out when I need to be called out.

You can take as well as you can give.

You can accept a compliment (or a gift), and you never give a compliment you don’t mean, or a gift out of mere obligation.

You’re kind.

You’re genuine.

You make me smile, because you’re pretty much always smiling.

If you see a problem and it bothers you, you fix it rather than waiting for someone else to fix it or complaining that it’s not fixed.

If you encounter an obstacle, you make a plan. You don’t just stand around waiting for someone else to fix the problem.

You form your own opinion and don’t let anyone else tell you how to think.

You give advice lovingly, without judgement.