Monday, April 2, 2012

What she said

Following on from my previous post...  I have to say.. this is worth waiting for.
So I'm copying and pasting this post from Ellie on what I look for in people, friends, lovers:

  • We might disagree; in fact that’s a very good thing but at the end of the day we can agree to disagree, and we can respect each other’s points of view.

  • You’re confident, but not arrogant.

  • You can win an argument with grace.

  • You can lose an argument with grace.

  • You can change your mind, and admit that you were wrong. When you are wrong, you fully admit it and take responsibility.

  • We might have different priorities, but if you are taking care of what’s top priority to you (and that’s not reflecting any extreme negative externalities) then we’re cool.

  • You’re not clingy.

  • You’re definitely not whiny. This is a weird one because I tend to whine, but it’s usually not sincere, just more a way to make light of a situation or hear myself talk.

  • You’re thoughtful and insightful. You are capable of talking about training. Or philosophy. Or politics, even if at the end of the day you do have one overriding passion.

  • You care about something, anything, that’s not just yourself or your physical existence or that of your family and loved ones.

  • You’re genuine, and honest, at least most of the time.

  • You’re strong and brave, and call me out when I need to be called out.

  • You can take as well as you can give.

  • You can accept a compliment (or a gift), and you never give a compliment you don’t mean, or a gift out of mere obligation.

  • You’re kind.

  • You’re genuine.

  • You make me smile, because you’re pretty much always smiling.

  • If you see a problem and it bothers you, you fix it rather than waiting for someone else to fix it or complaining that it’s not fixed.

  • If you encounter an obstacle, you make a plan. You don’t just stand around waiting for someone else to fix the problem.

  • You form your own opinion and don’t let anyone else tell you how to think.

  • You give advice lovingly, without judgement.
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